2020 Anointing Message To Fathers
William Jackson, M.Ed.
San Jose Church of Christ
Going into the New Year 2020 if they have not done so already
Pastors, Bishops, Apostles, Priests and others of religious and
ministerial faiths should pray over fathers.
Now more than ever in history we all need spiritual guidance, wisdom,
protection and learn how to be humble and obedient to the Holy Spirit.
As a father, educator and mentor, I want to inspire and motivate fathers,
step-fathers, grandfathers, fathers to be, divorced fathers and
even absentee fathers, men who are guardians and even those
classified as sperm donors: to be the best men their families, children,
communities, and churches need.
If changes are needed to take the journey to be the positive
and spiritual change that is needed then men should take
the journey seriously and be honest and submissive to the
Spirit of God. Difficult times and many challenges are
around us; spiritually, economically, educationally,
environmentally and politically.
As men we should be taking the lead in the direction to
move to care for our loved ones, our communities and
supporting our churches / ministries.
Fathers have a historical responsibility and spiritual
accountability to place their families above their
personal needs. Fathers cannot nor should not be
selfish in love for family, devotion to God, giving to
community and mentoring to youth, teens and
young adults. These things as men should
pray and act on to improve themselves.
As an educator over 30 years in elementary and higher
education, mentor and involved in my community the
lack of engagement by men is cursing our
communities. The levels of death, destruction and
decay are evidenced by the lack of involvement of
men involved in schools, community events, public
displays of love and affection to their communities
Here are a few lessons learned over the years as an educator
and involved in my community.
1. Fathers need to go to Jesus in prayer and pray with their
children and families. Leading prayer as the leader of the
household coming before God in humbleness and praise.
2. Fathers, make mistakes, but own up to them and correct
the mistakes they have made. Working not to repeat them and
modeling responsibility. Fathers teach your children that no
one is perfect, there was only one perfect person
and that was Christ. When a mistake is made own up to it
and ask for forgiveness.
3. Fathers, discipline children with love and not with physical
violence, verbal degradation or emotional manipulation.
Correction should be as the Lord corrects
us with patience, love and direction.
4. Fathers, take children/families to church and bible study to
receive the Word of God and meditate on the words to empower,
inspire and strengthen the family unit. Fathers are the leaders
and set the tone for attending regularly service and to be of
service in the ministry and the community.
5. Fathers, are not perfect and should not try to be perfect,
ask God for wisdom, direction and discernment. Do not seek
to be with those that curse the name of God and even men
that cheat on their wives and abandon their families. They
should be prayed for and directed to receive help and love.
6. Fathers, don’t blame others for weakness, but work to
strengthen themselves in the Word of God through prayer
and reading of scripture for understanding and application in life.
7. Fathers, do not “follow the guys” when they are disrespecting
women, this sets an inappropriate and dangerous model for
their sons to follow. Think about how your daughters and
granddaughters would feel if put in these situations.
8. Fathers, don’t block children’s anointing with ungodly actions
and modeling that may be repeated by their children as they
mature into adults. Be careful of the sins that you do because
your children may be prone to commit them.
9. Fathers, ask for discernment to recognize the signs of
trouble, chaos and confusion before they happen.
David and Solomon prayed to God for wisdom and knowledge,
God answered their prayers. Fathers need to go forth and pray
for that they think they will need with a humble heart and
10. Fathers, model respect for the spirit of the church
and the leaders of the church representation.
Ministry is not about who is holier than others, who
can pray the loudest, who can dress the best, it is
about our personal relationship with the Lord.
11. Fathers, lead grace/prayer at meal time and anoint their children with
oil of love, peace, humbleness to God. Fathers must lead by design and
with authority. Authority shows the humbleness of the Lord and obedience
12. Fathers, should be able to purchase their daughters personal items
and be proud in doing so. Setting a standard of respect, pride and
responsibility for the young lady he protects and loves.
A father submitting to his responsibility also models for his daughters
how another man should treat his daughter and granddaughter.
13. Fathers, promote education in the household. Reading should come
before video games, television or playtime. No matter the educational
level fathers should show their children the value of education and
14. Fathers, talk to their children about drugs and sex before the street
or television does.
There are so many lies about love, sex, drugs, that parents needs to be
consistent with their works, deeds and action.
15. Fathers, do not whine about what “HIS” daddy did not do for him,
but follow a model indicative of Godly men and accountability. No one
has/had a perfect father, you can be the father that your
children and families need.
16. Fathers, do not blame where he came from for his short-comings.
He focuses on where he is going in a positive direction.
The journey is not about arriving at the destination, but about
the travel. To be a blessing to others on the way, to teach, preach,
mentor, advocate, witness and evangelize.
17. Fathers, takes time to visit their children’s school and talk to teachers
about their children’s progress, strengths, and challenges. Fathers search
for solution, truths, building of hope and faith.
18. Fathers, will happily sacrifice for their family, showing how
God’s love sacrificed for all of us.
A father understands that his faithfulness, his prayers, his suffering,
his sacrifices are seen by the Lord and he will be blessed.
19. Fathers, accept responsibility for their children’s actions and
behaviors. Remembering that “the apple does not fall far from the
tree.” Fathers recognize and work to stop generational curses so
a new and positive direction is made for his children.
20. Fathers, will visit their children and spend time with them even
though he may not be present in the home. A true father takes
responsibility for a life that they helped create and a true
mother/woman allows the father to do this and puts her feelings
aside to allow a father to be a father.
21. Fathers, aren’t afraid to show love to their children, children
still need reinforcement that they are loved and respected by
their father. Love cannot be bought, bartered, compromised,
sold, exchanged. Love is a action word and actions
speak louder than words. The Lord loved us so much that he
gave His only begotten son so that we may life.
22. Fathers, spend time just being together with their children and
doing things their children like and will remember doing. Memories
last longer then any amount of money a man has.
23. Fathers, teach your child to be responsible and accountable for
their actions. Not to blame others for their actions or think they
are owed anything by anyone. Respect is always earned.
24. Fathers must teach and model respect to women for their sons
and respect to men by their daughters.
Sex must be taken seriously not as a game or a competition,
violence is not acceptable by men or women. Fathers must lead
in the understanding of this.
A father must teach his son that there is more to life
than conquests, life is about service and being a servant.
25. Fathers must teach respect, honor, and fear of the Lord.
A truly humble man is sensible of his natural
distance from God; of his dependence on Him;
of the insufficiency of his own power and wisdom;
and that it is by God’s power that he is up held
and provided for, and that he needs God’s wisdom
to lead and guide him, and His might to enable
him to do what he ought to do for Him.